AITA: 'She's not your cat!' : Woman lets boyfriend's crying cat outside despite his instructions, he kicks her out and the internet erupts in chaos

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    Cat - AITA for letting my boyfriend's cat outside? I was there the other night and Libby was meowing at the back door. I said that it wouldn't hurt to let her out as she was very loud. He says he just ignores her for 10 minutes and she's fine and told me not to let her out. She seemed really insistent so I let her out. Bf was none the wiser but after a while he noticed how quiet his house was and started to look for Libby as she normally cuddles him after not being let out. He started freaking o
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    Smile - Posted by u/bfcatdrama 6 hours ago 120 AITA for letting my boyfriend's cat outside?
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    Font - My boyfriend of a year owns his own place and has a cat, Libby. She's 2 years old and has always gone outside. He is stopping that as he said she injured her paw quite badly and had scratches on her after another cat attacked her. He said a few of his neighbours have become concerned recently as their cats have also become injured. She was quite poorly and it cost him a lot in vet fees. He
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    Font - said that he gets it's a change for Libby as she has been meowing at the door to be let out but that it's for her health and safety and he said he's planning on building some outside open air cage thing so she's still outside but concealed in it.
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    Font - I was there the other night and Libby was meowing at the back door. I said that it wouldn't hurt to let her out as she was very loud. He says he just ignores her for 10 minutes and she's fine and told me not to let her out. She seemed really insistent so I let her out. Bf was none the wiser but after a while he noticed how quiet his house was and started to look for Libby as she normally
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    Font - cuddles him after not being let out. He started freaking out when he couldn't find her and I told her I let her out. He got really would you do angry and asked 'why the 1 that when I told you I don't want MY cat outside?' He started saying I'm rude, insensitive and horrible for what I did. Libby came back after like an hour. She was fine.
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    Font - My bf kicked me out and has been cold to me since. He says that he doesn't trust me in his house anymore or near his cat. She's a really sweet girl and I love her and I don't think I did anything wrong. I think he's being really paranoid just cos she got hurt once. I'm trying to make him see my POV that he's being too overprotective and he says I'm an AH and that he needs some space from me.
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    Font - De-Brevitate-Vitae · 6 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA. Not your cat, not your home, and not your vet bills to pay if the cat had gotten injured. I would break up with you. 16.4k Share
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    Font - Diamond Heist1970 - 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] I don't understand why you would let her out. You have just undone all the hard work he's done to keep her inside. It's for her safety, the safety of the neighbours cats as well as wildlife. If someone makes such a decision, don't undermine them. YTA
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    Font - supernaturalfan882 - 6 hr. ago Partassipant [4] YTA. You completely ignored your boyfriends request to not let the cat out. He has decided it's in her best interest for her not to go outside anymore as he is worried she will get hurt again, or even worse. You ignored his feelings and did what you wanted to anyway. She is not your cat and it's not up to you if she goes out or not. If something had happened to her while she was out your boyfriend would not forgive you. ↑ 2.3k Share
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    Font - ghostbytes 6 hr. ago . Absolutely agreed. If the kitty keeps getting injured and it's a safety concern OP should have listened and let the cat yowl. Instead of making an executive decision, they could have talked later about safe outdoor enclosures. 230 Share
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    Font - Trekwiz 6 hr. ago To be fair, you're not going to have to worry about this for long. He's going to dump you. You put his cat in danger after he explicitly told you not to. You were aware that his and other cats were being attacked in the neighborhood and you just didn't care.
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    Font - And as other commenters said, cats don't belong outdoors, as they also pose a danger to the local environment. You'll never be able to rebuild the trust you lost. Especially since you're still defending your actions. If it's this obvious to someone who doesn't like pets, you have no excuse to be unaware of how serious your behavior was. YTA. 1.9k Share
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    Font - Epicratia 5 hr. ago I wish OP's soon-to-be-Ex lots of luck for a smooth transition into indoor-cat training, and I hope the two of them (him and the cat) have many healthy and happy years together. ↑ 511 Share ...
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    Font - Bulky_Cantaloupe2931 6 hr. ago Why bother posting when from just reading your comments, you won't view it any different. Yta on that alone. 982 Share
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    Font - smile_saurus 5 hr. ago YTA. She is his cat, not your cat. She was hurt while outside and he decided that HIS cat can no longer go outdoors. It was an AH move on your part to completely go against your BF's wishes. What if she had been attacked by a dog, or hit by a car? Would it still have been 'no big deal' to you? ↑ 17 Share
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    Font - Hoplite68 4 hr. ago Partassipant [2] YTA. So you as a guest in someone else's home decided that you were going to overrule their strict instructions about what was to happen with the animal that you in no way contribute towards.
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    Font - He'll be lucky if the cat is still alive as something is hunting and fighting them. Not that you care clearly as you've shown that if you disagree with what he says you'll just do whatever you want anyway. He's being cold because he's seen who you are, and if he's got any sense he'll act on that. 16 Share

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